you’ve heard of those studies about how things that were luxury items a generation ago are now pervasive. these days everyone has an air conditioner, something that’s certainly not necessary in my part of the country. and yet, we have one. it’s the kind that sits in a window; our neighbors passed it along to us when they upgraded. it’s old and second-hand, but we do have one. and we use it. it’s just become normal.
in a similar way it seems we are used to not working hard. if there is the slightest bit of resistance, we take it as a sign that something must be wrong. i don’t want to be afraid of hard work, afraid of mistakes and false trails and wasted time. just because it’s hard, doesn’t mean i should stop. in a piece about the choice to homeschool, Lori at Project Based Homeschooling says,
“I am completely sure that you are capable of homeschooling if that’s what you want to do–not that it will be completely easy from the get-go, but that you will be able to handle whatever comes along.”
this is exactly the speech i give to new mamas who are learning the breastfeeding dance: it’s hard, and you can do it. and isn’t that resilience what we all want for ourselves and our children? often when things stop being easy, fear begins to creep in. but we have what we need (or better, we will develop everything we need) to handle whatever comes along.