when i first heard the term “family culture” a few years ago i was sort of mystified. what did it mean exactly? it sounded like something i wanted, but how were we supposed to get there? now a few years and a couple of children later, i’m a bit more comfortable using the term. and i don’t mean anything really spectacular by it. it just boils down to having things in common, doing things together: we go camping at the beach every year, we make a fire to celebrate the Solstice, we drink ice tea mixed with lemonade, we read a book aloud before bed each night.
i listed the easy one last.
simply sharing stories together will deepen your family culture. it will give you lines to recite + inside jokes. easy dinner conversation + a dependable routine. at our place we’ve started lighting a candle before we begin the bedtime novel. it’s gentle glow remains after we turn off the light. then we do a short Ignatian examen–each one saying something good from their day, a place where they saw God. then a song + a prayer. then i blow out the candle.
simply reading books, taking walks, drawing, listening to music, doing chores, making food