Lazy Genius your Homeschool–Principle #13: Be Kind to Yourself

James Clear says, “When you fall in love with the process rather than the product, you don’t have to wait to be happy. You can be satisfied anytime your system is running.”

You don’t have to wait to be happy. You don’t have to wait until your daughter masters her math facts. You don’t have to wait until your son improves his spelling. You don’t have to wait until the house is clean or you’ve lost the baby weight or the college acceptance letter arrives.

Tree + sun against the blue sky

Homeschooling is for the long haul, and it can seem like our happiness lies always just out of reach. We aim at a moving target. We can never quite be satisfied. We have front row seats on all our kids’ challenges. We see lack everywhere. Remember the aforementioned math facts, spelling, and looming college acceptance?

The homeschool moms who are happiest find ways to stay present to the process. They participate in the liturgy of Morning Time. They thoughtfully craft a spacious schedule. They tailor written resources to the children in front of them. They are learning to trust themselves. Kendra offers three ways to show kindness to yourself…and the quirky, wonderful kids in front of you.

Value Who Your Child Is Now

The beginning of a new school year is a great time to do this. Not the new curriculum, not the rigorous booklist. Value the child now, before they encounter these improving influences.

Reflect on Who They Are Becoming

Trust that the thoughtful homeschool you are creating with them will bear fruit in its season.


The end of term, Saturday nights, the moon coming full, saint days, seasons. Make it simple, make it light. Make space to honor the good work you each have done and the good gifts that you’ve been given.

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